Wedding your friends

18 February 2022

This is strange for me. I've spent a lot of time with my dad more than my mom. And I thought there would be a lot of love lost. It makes my heart ache how much effort he took to reach out. He looked so tired, bloodshot eyes, drooped shoulders, slowed breathing. He looks drained. I feel like I'm not justified to say I'm tired. Tiredness is not written on my father. He is tiredness and he still keeps on tugging at the rope and creating knots. Must come from getting your livelihood as a mariner. It seems he does it and perseveres merely by muscle memory. I want to weep. I want to do right by him. This man gave up his life to sustain me. My mom too. And selfish me insists I am deprived. I want to give my life away in pursuit of the happiness and comfort of other people.

5:51pm Riceland II hotel
After my 1st INC wedding.

The groom danced with his mom, evoking thoughts that the mother is saying goodbye to having his son as he will be the head of his new family.

It is quite easy to see how this rite of passage event pronounces strongly that Ate Aprille embarks a new stage in her life. It feels heavy. Like an armor. Having your own family.

This is so pretty. This wedding. It is my favorite so far. They've worked so hard for this. It reminds me that Ate Aprille now has a new title: wife. And that all the splendor we experience now is a product people worked for.

7:02pm, same venue post-prandial blood glucose relatively well-nourished

Seeing your friend who you've remained in contact with since after HS graduation gain the title of wife is a new experience. It made me realize what stage I could be ready for.

Yesterday was my 1st time inside an Iglesia ni Cristo church. I was staring intently at the interiors. They have 2 high chandeliers and the facade continues to the inside, with a formal arrangement like a courtroom and wooden benches with spaced slats as pews. And today, after the ceremony was completed as forecasted complete with signing the copies of the marriage contract within 30minutes, I would say INC ceremonies strike me as a no-fuss business-like approach to prayer. I am awed by the part where the community, exemplified by the church people as one with the "prime minister" all rise in prayer for guidance and well-wishes for the couple in unified petition.

I feel stuffy in my secondary sponsor clothes. But I am having fun. Seeing how other people's hard work come together, particularly the people hired for this wedding, is a wake-up call. From the kapilya floor manager, the video and photo team, the makeup artists and hair stylists, the tailor, the MC, coordinators, the Zoom team, the drivers, the recep servers. How could we take this for granted, the love and kindness of other people?

This event is not mine. It is foremost Yton and Aprille's. Their wedding. They are exemplary for portraying what a couple should be in real life.